Meet Me Behind The Lockers After Gym Class
Okay, this whole boy/girl thing is waaaay too complicated. To quote the Lethal Weapon Franchise, "I am too old for this shit." And yet, witness the following exchange between Eden and myself as we try to decode the secret language of boys.
me: ok, I'm going to tell you about an exchange with Facebook Guy, and you have to tell me if he's asking me on a date
Eden: k
me: because we are in high school, apparently :)
me: ok, so we were talking about getting together so that I can loan him some dvds and he can loan me his blackberry (long story, but teh awesome, no?) and I asked what would be good. He asked if I was free for lunch this week.
Eden: that's a date meal = date
me: hang on, there's more. So I tell him I busy until Friday. And he asks what time I was thinking because he's going to see a band at this club at 9. What happened to lunch???? first we were talking lunch, and now this! so confused. Is it a flyby? Fishing for dinner? An invite to the club???? What????
Eden: I think so. Ask. say, "Should I wear my dancing shoes?"
me: oooh, that's good!
Me: I said "I dunno...should I wear sneakers or my dancing shoes?"
Eden: does he like you or does he like you like you?
me: I don't know. My friend Ethel put a note in his locker to ask him.
(seriously. She messaged him)
5 minutes later
Me: and there is now an ominous silence from facebook guy
Me: what happened to "hey, would you like to go out with me?" Didn't boys used to do that?
Eden: I did the "do you love me? check yes or no" in 2nd grade
About three hours later, I got this reply from Facebook Guy: I think it would be more of a sneakers type event.
So, any ideas? Did he ask me out? Invite me to the club? And if he did, is it a date? Not a date? Just Friends? Any one of which is cool, I'd just like to know what underwear to wear.
Excuse me while I go buy a YM magazine and try to figure this out.
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I'm going to pick up a copy of Bop b/c it has a Duran Duran centerfold this month and some pix of Matt Dillon. Save me a seat on the bus. TTFN BFF
I rarely chime in, but you have me cracking up! :)I feel your pain, and while I'm not single (solo) have many friends who are. I say - tell him you can meet him @ 6:30ish (if you find a sitter) if that works for him? See how he responds and go from there. You could try suggesting a Sat lunch since he's "busy" on Fri. ;) Good luck!!! :)
I agree with Curly mom, you make the time, that way you can at least put yourself out of misery. coz goodness knows I have no idea if he is asking you out on a date or not!
Oh and although there was a three hour silence, maybe don't take it to mean he was silenced by your question but merely distracted by things not as important as you!
I can't interpret for you, but I'd be happy to join you in the girls' bathroom to discuss it while we fix our eye shadow!
Judging by ominous silence afterwards, I would presume that Facebook guy was trying to do a flyby dinner (and did not actually mean to invite you to the club). I don't know why he asked about lunch first...maybe he would prefer a lunch date, but not on Friday...? You know I actually get paid to be a "relationship advisor" right? Too bad I advise teenagers about kissing and dating and not grown-ups about how men only become stranger with age. Wear the sexy undies, though. As a college girlfriend used to tell me, "Put on the confidence underwear."
I didn't see him in the cafeteria today.
My take on the sneakers vs. dancing shoes? He chose sneakers because the band isn't a "dancing" band and not because he was rejecting the date aspect.
I prefer to reference Cosmo in all things men. And, my horoscope says to take the bull by the horns (I'm a Taurus, does this mean I'm supposed to, you know, "take things into my OWN hands" so to speak... after all, it is Cosmo! j/k) Anyway, I say you make plans for you two, tell him, "Look, this is what I would like to do on this day at this time. You cool with that?" and see what he says. But make sure it's something that he would dig too. And ALWAYS wear sexy panties when you meet a guy for ANYTHING because you never know what might happen!
Incidentally, when I was single I met up with a guy for lunch (I was on my lunch break from work) and lets just say that I'm glad I wore sexy panties!
He is SO asking you out, darling!!
